This reflection was published in the February Ursuline Associate Update newsletter.

By Sister Nancy Liddy

When a newcomer enters an Ursuline community, the formation has many similarities to the formation received by our Associates in preparation for their public commitment. We read and study the life of Saint Angela, learn the history and traditions of the community, begin to absorb the “core values,” and participate in the life and apostolates of the institute.

At one time our potential candidates came from similar backgrounds and often attended high school at Mount Saint Joseph Academy. By the time I entered, this had shifted for most religious communities in the U.S., including ours, as women of various ages from different backgrounds, cultures and geographical areas were received. Some had degrees but little formal catechesis. Some came from divorced families or were previously married themselves. Some had experience in business while others were family caregivers. Some could cook; others lived on fast food. Some liked to read; others preferred television or the internet.

Most communities go the extra mile to accommodate and adapt to the needs of those who wish to enter. Religious formation stretches the newcomers to integrate the values of the community and at the same time allows them to use their gifts for the benefit of all. These adaptations can be surprisingly practical. A community in Illinois removed a convent bed and hung a hammock in the room of an Asian postulant who slept this way all her life. One Sister from a metropolitan city recently moved from her rural monastery to a larger city to ease the transition during her formation.

An Associate shared with me how she has been adopted into another Associates’ biological family celebrations. Without blood ties, she has become family. These are simple examples, but they illustrate the key value of mutual love. Even as religious communities and their lay affiliates become even more “chronologically gifted” we can continue to lead the way of reciprocal love –a way of life that can be lived by all.

Something to Consider:        

 As we begin preparations for Associates and Sisters Days, and the season of Lent, set aside some moments in the day to reflect on how you are an image and an extension of the love of Christ.

Identify ways you incarnate reciprocal love to family and community members, co-workers, and in general, those nearest to you.